Some of the healthiest marriages I’ve observed are ironically partnerships of two people who have learned not just to fight, but how to fight well.
Each accepts that the other brings a unique personality and perspective to the table. And each understands that the partnership is stronger when each focuses on the other’s strengths and not on their weaknesses. Both learn that a strong partnership is a result of open and honest communication, and the goal is personal and professional growth.
As with marriage, many make the incorrect assumption that the best teams are conflict free. They often equate conflict with dysfunction. It’s an assumption that can lead to misaligned expectations (for others and for oneself), hurt feelings that turn into wounds, resentment and mediocrity.
Conflict in teams is beneficial when it: