Confrontation is good; it reduces stress! Wait a minute, how could confrontation reduce stress? Usually, we think of it as a cause of stress, but how often have you laid awake at night or woken up at night thinking about things that bother you? It could be something someone else said, a problem you’re working through, or a fear of someone’s thoughts about you. All these worries can go through our minds, cause us to lose sleep and increase stress. It happens to me, and it probably happens to everyone. In my experience, confrontation is what solves this problem.
Confrontation isn’t going up to somebody and aggressively saying, “what did you say about me?” or “what do you think about me?” That’s a negative form of confrontation. I’m talking about the opposite of that. If you feel that there are unspoken things or an issue that you have a different perspective on, the best thing to do is comment with someone on it. Calmly approach them and get it out on the table. Whenever I’ve done this, it’s almost always less of an issue than I’ve built it up to be.
If we don’t address these things, it builds up internally and eventually causes issues. That’s why, as we continue into the new year, it’s important to think about these issues, misinterpretations or misunderstandings. Look at confrontation positively and get this stuff out on the table. Talk about it in a healthy way and move past it. It will almost always be less of an issue than you think. You’ll move forward, and everyone will feel better.